This week has been a funny one. In both senses of the word. As a family, we’ve made some decisions about life. D has made a big work decision, and is putting plans in place so that he can be more ‘present’, less stressed and at home a bit more. I am going to spread myself less thinly and stop trying to squash a lot into a little.
We both want to do more with the children. Just in simple ways. Cooking together. Actually playing an imaginary game (I quite often avoid this, and know how much they enjoy it when I do jump in). And stopping the shouting and dour faces.
A few months ago, we realised that the littlest one needed some boundaries, but in putting them in place, we have lost a bit of humour and happiness in the family.
I’m a bit wild at heart, so my side of our ‘things need to change’ conversations included suggesting upping sticks and moving to france and Gite living. But really, all we need to do is be more present, slow down, spend less money and more time. So that’s the plan. We’re lucky that we have got some wiggle-margin in the finances – some places where we can tighten our belts. We had a great thrifty month last November, saving hundreds of pounds, so we just need to get back to that. I’ll be working more once both kids are school too.
I am dropping out of doing a few things for a few months. I will get back into it all in September when K starts school, so for now, its good for us to really enjoy our time together. And I’m determined that this summer will not be a repeat of the last where I was so busy and frustrated.
On Tuesday my old mate V, sat me down and gave me a talking to. Sometimes that’s exactly what you need. I’ve felt a bit sorry for myself (actually since the kids were born), but my destiny is in my own hands, and she knows me well (and remembers me pre-kids). She reminded me that I’m more than mummy and with September looming and the girls growing up, I can and should start to recognise and celebrate that part of me (if I can find her)!
I went to the Britmums Meetup on Wednesday and met some fantastic fellow bloggers. I’m such a rookie, and all this is very new to me. I think I was the only one without a blog business card, and even my email is my personal one, but everyone was lovely and welcoming and I really enjoyed it. I have a new girl-crush too. 🙂
In the afternoon, we made lush pizza for the family. I learnt that pizza base is not one of the things you can make gluten-free.
On Thursday morning, we had mates over in the garden for a few hours. Coffee and play. The children are younger than K though and she got bored after a while. But instead of telling them all to leave, she went inside and watched telly. She listened when I told her I was not going to tell everyone to leave and was going to continue my conversation with my friends. Yay! Its getting easier. My baby is growing more reasonable.
K and I met a great old friend of mine on Friday, who is on the cusp of moving into the freelance world. She’s one of those inspiring mates, who talks to me in a very ‘no-bullshit’, frank way, and makes me reconsider my goals. We then went swimming at King Alfs, which is so much better since they’ve sorted out the changing rooms. Then to Marroccos for more pizza. We have always loved Marroccos – one of Hove’s hidden gems.
We ate Fish and chips in the evening with B and D and watched Brave. Then over to Stanmer House on Saturday for a Wildplay breakfast meeting and drizzle-wander around the rope swings and climbing trees. Beky’s got so much happening with Wildplay this year, both in Brighton and Worthing. I’m really excited about it all.
We had a fun week. Did lots and made some really good decisions, which will be really good for us all.
I captured my week for the lovely Hannah’s ‘The Week That was Captured’ linky over at Make do and Push.
(I never did baby books and did well to keep everyone clean and fed when they were littler).
I love this linky, as it prompts me to write and to reflect on my week. And I hope this blog will be something for me and my family to look back at