I read an article in the Daily Mail this morning. No, I don’t generally read it – it was flagged up to me. It pretends to be about breastfeeding (I’m not linking up – I’m not prepared to give it the oxygen). It’s actually about the objectification of women. And it makes me terribly, desperately sad.
It discusses women choosing to breastfeed or not based on whether the act of breastfeeding causes you to lose or gain weight. Breastfeeding is not about beauty or weight. It’s about babies and bonding and hormones and nutrition, as well as mental health, sleep and a whole myriad of other stuff.
I’ll fight tooth and nail to protect our rights as women to choose what we do with our bodies, including breastfeeding, abortion, and our right to only have consensual sex (and as much as we like).
But something that tells my daughters that they are more valuable for being fat or thin, blonde or brunette, hairy or hairless is abhorrent to me. It’s misogyny and promotes the objectification of our bodies. It has lost sight of the real reasons that we choose whether or not to breastfeed entirely.
I want my girls to value and love their bodies and their minds and to understand that each of us is more than an image or a commodity.
The article has however energised and enthused a bunch of us over at Brighton Mums into starting a ‘blog-a-rama’ asking bloggers to write about the challenges of raising all our children (girls and boys) to respect themselves, their healthy bodies and each other.
Please do join in sharing your positive and negative experiences, ideas and comment and use the twitter handles #raisinggirls and #raisingboys. Brighton mums will be hosting and promoting posts, so please let us have your links, I’m passing straight onto them, but asking anyone reading to tag your friends and add your posts, comments and tweets.
If you don’t have a blog, but want to write, please do email us at Brighton mums and we’ll publish on your behalf.
I want to shout about this stuff in the mainstream not being the reality for most of us or our children. We’re raising smart, emotionally intelligent kids and this stuff is important!